How to solve any kind of life problem
The 6 Dragons Kung Fu’s Method to solve problems
Reconnecting to the previous article (read Accept problems to find solutions) we see now a simple, effective and “scientific” method to solve any kind of life problem:
- In the 6DKF’s Method, there are no magic tricks, only a rational mindset
- Sometimes what stop us from winning is only the absence of the will to act systematically
- Probably not all problems can be solved with a “formula” but, most of them, surely can
- Most of the times, our efforts will result in a triumph
- Each time we will become more strong, experienced and skilled
A note by Master Kongling – I do not know how you will interpret these indications but I want to tell you that I have used this method a lot of times in my life (from the smallest informatic unforeseen to more serious personal difficulties) and it has always worked, it’s for this reason that I have decided to share it with you.
1. Evaluate the size of the problem
The first thing to evaluate is the incidence of the problem in our life. Let’s write on a paper or (better) on a digital device the answers to the subsequent questions:
- Is the problem really worthy of our attention (and of the necessary effort to solve it)?
- Cannot the problem be safely ignored or is it crucial (is it expanding or shrinking)?
- Are there any chances of success? Has anyone already succeeded?
- Are the possible advantages in solving the problem greater than the sure disadvantages / risks in dealing with it?
If we have positively replied to these questions let’s proceed, otherwise let’s think about it another time (is it possible that we are already done).
2. What we need to solve the problem
- Is our level of competence enough high in the specific sector?
- Are we sure we are able to expand our knowledge to such an extent that we can solve the problem ourselves?
- What resources (tools, materials, money, etc.) and skills do we need?
- Can we directly obtain what we need to know, have and understand or do we have to go through other steps?
If we have understood what we need we can proceed otherwise we have to collect all the necessary information ( filtering the least reliable sources).
3. Who we need to solve the problem
- Who should we ask for professional help (or suggestions about professional help)?
- Is there anybody who has already effectively solved our problem (or an extremely similar one)?
- In terms of time, resources and effectiveness, is it wiser to take action first person or to ask for help?
- Are we going to expose ourselves to risks working alone? Do we have a choice?
If we have obtained a profitable consultation and / or put together the people we need, we can proceed.
4. Preventive assessments
- How much time do we imagine we will need to solve the problem (how many hours per day)?
- Who has already succeeded how long has it taken?
- Are there any fast but viable and already tested solutions?
- Are we able to act with determination (discipline, concentration and preparation) every day until the end?
- How can we train / expand our mind and body in view of the solution of the problem and of the forced passages that this entails?
- Let’s delimit the time that we will dedicate to the problem (limiting it with a calculation of the time necessary and the time that we can dedicate it lucidly)
Let’s move on to the working plan.
5. The working plan
- Let’s isolate the problem and let’s study it with the resources we have chosen (tools, people, etc.)
- Let’s test / investigate the problem occurrence (trying not to make it worse)
- Is the problem only occurring with us and / or in our conditions? How do other people deal with it?
- Let’s analyze the results obtained (also assessing their reliability)
- Let’s write a list of possible solutions (based on the idea of not forcibly “remove” the problem but to solve its worst effects)
In this phase, we have passed from an insurmountable problem to a list of possible solutions, let’s go on.
6. Testing the possible solutions
- Let’s order the solutions starting with the fastest and the probably effective ones
- Let’s start with the first solution, the second and so on without losing even a minimum part of our determination
- Let’s act methodically, following the steps and directives of the best professionals in the sector we are operating
- We need the right mental energy to succeed; when the mind has abandoned us, it is harmful to insist (sleep, sport, distractions, fun and outburst help a lot)
- If no one of the solutions provided is working we have to return to step 2 10, 100, 1000 times, each of them will come with more knowledge, data and skills
If we have found a solution we have to check its functionality.
7. Check the results
- If this does not involve collateral damages, let’s evaluate the validity and durability of the solutions with counter-tests (writing detailed notes about them)
- Let’s re-analyze the absence of all the individual problems (the central one and the eventual collaterals) one by one evaluating if the results are truly satisfactory
- Let’s wait a reasonable time to check if the problem is completely solved, if it is not we have to go back to step 2
- Let’s do not give in to despair over failings (each error must be written to do not be repeated, each of them is a new step in direction of our goal)
If finally, we have found a definitive solution the process is not already ended.
8. Store our work
- Let’s keep the scheme, the tests carried out, the data and above all the solutions (let’s isolate / duplicate / secure all that can be preserved)
- Our work could be useful again (for us, for others or even as a trophy, as a demonstration that we are able to manage our life)
- In some cases solving a problem can also turn into an unexpected opportunity (the possibility to sell / share the solution, to tell our story in a book, to make available to others the skills we have acquired, etc.)
Now we have really finished. This way we have drawn the maximum benefit from an otherwise totally negative stall situation.
In the next article of this series, we will see a simple and comfortable scheme (to be filled) to facilitate the application of the 6 Dragons Kung Fu’s Problem Solving Method.
In-depth articles
- Take the right direction – The premises that we need to know to address our problems
- Meditation method 1 – Meditation is a perfect training for the mind and a way to prepare us to face the challenges of life
Questions
Reply in the comments and share your experience:
- How do you deal with problems normally?
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TingaTinga
October 1, 2018 @ 11:50 am
Simple and effective
Master Kongling
October 2, 2018 @ 12:53 am
Simple but not so easy 😉
eraclito
January 19, 2022 @ 11:23 am
You are awesome, how can I follow your courses?
SIMΩMEGA
January 10, 2024 @ 1:37 pm
Warning: Very Long
I recently had a problem that was going on for a longer time than id have liked it to be, so i put up and tried to find a solution, this was before ive found this way of dealing with problems, but my way of solving the problem wasnt too dissimilar from this anyway except in 1 simple thing, sometimes i let my pride and anger towards this person in the way and as such i did some mistakes in trying and finding a middle-ground between the 2 of us, luckily i had a person that was following me and giving me advice, and even if i made some mistakes in some attempts to reconcile (again this was a problem that was going on for a very long time, and i couldnt simply ignore it, because this person was a friend of my friend) i think i did the most i could do at least from my side, but ive been met with nothing but spite from this person as well as general antagonism, that to this day i still dont know what the cause of it was, if it was because of something i said or how i behaved, but in any case i had to cut off with my friend as he wasnt being supportive, he was supposed to be neutral but after a while he also started to be hostile towards me and even they both insulted me heavily (to which then the guy denied doing to the others, while my “friend” was defending him for doing so, but somehow nobody noticed the contradiction in both of their versions, signs of liars and pride), which is something i never did despite myself also making some mistakes, but not to that level, anyway it ended up hurting me a lot because i dont have that many friends to begin with but i still think it was the right thing to do in the long-term, ive thought it over and over and put my pride aside many times and im convinced it was the right thing to do, my friend was actually going through something that i assume and deduce it was because of his family situation at least from what he told me, and i suggested him to talk with a professional as my family did back then and that worked for us, he was such a calm and composed person before then, but then he started being more antagonistic towards me and generally more angrier, so i drew my conclusions and had to leave, i tried but nothing had worked so i was only left with the worst solution and im not saying i didnt do my fair share of mistakes but again as ive said i did all i could….
TL;DR: My only friends friend was being antagonistic towards me for the longest time, he recently started being with my friend more and more and as such i couldnt just simply ignore it and let it go, at first i talked with my friend about it and at first he went and asked this person to apologize to me, but then he told my friend that he had nothing to apologize for and then after that it only got worse between both me and my friend (also due to what i can only assume was his family situation from what he told me, as his behavior had changed dramatically from before, it couldnt have been just a coincidence as i know personally from first-hand experience, but he still refused to go see a professional, i probably dont know the full story, but i dont think i did anything that justified his increased wrath and anger towards me, as ive always behaved the same in all the years we knew each other…) but also between me and this person, this person was a pathological liar and very prideful sadly, he ended up convincing everyone in the group that i was in the wrong with lies (obviously) and as a result i had to leave the group, which at first i didnt want to do but as a last-resort solution i believe it was the right thing to do, at least in the long-term…….
I wont deny that i now hold a grudge to both my ex-friend but also this person (which i had for very long, it wasnt the first time i had to deal with this guy sadly) as well as feelings of revenge, i was kinda ashamed to say this in a kung fu course because being positive is what kung fu teaches but in general ill say that i always keep in my memory fresh and vivid memories of who i believe to have wronged me, but the worst part of it all is that i dont even want to let go of these feelings, one of my beliefs is that people (in the wrong) should be taught a lesson whether that is from me or someone else, so i humbly ask you master for advice, obviously revenge is something that ends up taking away from an individual but is there a way to make people learn lessons without hurting them? (Either physically or mentally?)
Or wait, actually i know that pain is part of the path to improvement but im unsure of how to put it, because i know that bringing suffering to others is a bad thing, but i really dont know if standing still and just hoping for karma to do its work is something i should be doing, again i wont deny that part of me wants to see this person learn from his mistakes in a… very harsh way… to say the least but on the other hand i understand that if he actually learned how to be humble and acknowledged his wrongdoings i would be more than content enough to let it go, so to clarify id say that despite me holding grudges towards people who i believe were unjust towards me i can put my pride aside and forgive if they acknowledged their mistakes and at least made sure not to do it again to others, i would be satisfied if thats how it went so what im wondering is whos job should it be to teach these people a lesson, life itself?
Sorry for this being really long i tend to be very exhaustive haha so if theres anything you havent understood feel free to ask for clarifications.
SIMΩMEGA
January 10, 2024 @ 1:52 pm
I wanted this to be short but then i ended up taking it to heart and being as exhaustive as possible, theres probably a few things to learn from this experience, maybe something like sometimes the solution that seems to be the absolute worst, is actually the correct one? And thats a harsh one at that….
But id rather wait on your advice, mostly on the feelings of revenge and wanting to take it upon me to teach a lesson to this person (not physically obviously although i wont lie that crossed my mind multiple times), which im obviously not in the position to do now, to add to all of this, i took up this course because i felt hopeless and at the mercy of whatever was happening around me, and although my feelings of revenge are very, VERY, really strong, this wasnt even close to being the prime reason for wanting to learn kung fu, so lastly i want to say that hopefully when im done learning and having finished this course ill have a more positive mind, sort of like the green beard altruism thats to be found in nature?
Master Kongling
January 11, 2024 @ 4:27 pm
I understand your feelings. The fact is that there is no way to change what happens around you, you can only change the meaning you give to it… easy to say, hard to do and it is for this reason that our Kung Fu teaches how to free yourself from the negative force that comes from the outside, accepting it and redirecting it into something positive or neutral. Serious practice helps you to free your mind and exploit the incredible power of your emotions… in other words to take control over your mind… channel and exploit to your advantage the strength of this river in full…