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Never think about problems

Never think about problems, let’s use our time only to look for solutions.

Note – This article has been asked by one of our Core Course practitioners on Patreon (see how to attend our home study classes here Learn Kung Fu online: a beginner-to-expert course).

Let’s start from some simple concepts that we must learn to accept:

Problems are a life constant – Problems (of any kind) occur periodically and require time / effort for their solution (it is a big mistake to think them as “exceptions”)
Problems give meaning to life – Without any difficulty or obstacle, our existence would have no meaning (life itself could not exist)
Problems happen for no reason – Problems do not have a meaning to be researched (let’s do not waste precious time that we could use to solve them); problems have only causes and effects, we have to use the seconds to identify the firsts
Shame, anger, denial and postponements are our enemies – These 4 beasts never help to solve any kind of problem but for sure, they can make them bigger and heavier
There are 2 ways to address problems, one long and one longer – The first is the one that we know is correct and the second is the one that we know it is wrong plus the correct one (read The right thing to do)
If our problems are a cloud without defined limits, they cannot be solved – If we do face one problem at the time, giving them a starting point and an ending one, a rational cause and a rational solution, they will never leave us
No one will solve our problems – We have to act first person and independently to organize and get everything we need for our purpose (professional help, knowledge, tools, etc.)
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We can lose our control and waste day, weeks, months, years each time a new problem will come or we can accept that this is the reality in which we live and act accordingly.

What happens when we face our problems

Every time we implement our psychophysical faculties to positively solve a problem:

We inevitably gain new knowledge and / or skills
We learn effective methods to help those with our same difficulties
We move one step closer to our mental maturity, learning what we truly can do (despite the wrong preconceptions, ours or of the thers)
We begin to move in a positive spiral (solidly based on the proof of being able to achieve the goals we set ourselves)
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In few words: We become stronger and stronger (read Measure ourselves with errors).

How to prepare ourselves to solve a problem

Preparation, discipline, concentration.

To effectively solve a (big or small) problem, we must:

Separate the problem from ourselves – We must abandon any emotionality and / or personal involvement in relation to the it
Separate the problem from the others – As we said, no one can solve a cloud of indefinite problems without a head or a tail, we must isolate each of them to face one at the time
Separate the problem from its effects – We often confuse some of the causes of our problem with some of its effects making it insurmountable
Establish problems’ priorities – We have to give each problem (or its components) a precise order of resolution in relation to the others
Establish what we need – We have to understand what we need (people, resources, knowledge, etc.) and what we do not need; just needing other people doesn’t mean we don’t have to be the organizers of the game
Make a plan and stay focused on it – We have to write down an ordered working plan; problems must be analyzed and resolved in the right order and without interferences or distractions
Catch the opportunities – The events are neither forcibly positive nor negative, it is our judgment to make the difference, why do not to look at them as collateral opportunities or at least neutral happenings?

In a few simple steps:

We have undressed our problem
We have found its limits
We have harnessed it to such an extent as to turn it into something we could even exploit in our favor (new meetings, life experiences, opportunities for evolution, experiences to share, cultural growth, etc.)

A note by Master Kongling – Do not think that I take lightly your problems or the ones of those who are truly suffering but if you think for a moment: we are always the discriminant, we choose the way we deal with life happenings. There is no trick to control what is outside of our mind, it is impossible but there is a way to control (part of) ourselves so, being able to choose, why not choose for the most favorable point of view?

In the next article of this series, we will deepen this topic by describing the 6 Dragons Kung Fu’s Method to solve problems (read How to solve any kind of life problem).

In-depth video courses

Mind self-control hacks – How to make the mind work better (concentration, productivity and much more)
How to build strong self-discipline – A gradual path to become able to impose yourself on yourself

In-depth articles

Breathing for immediate relaxation – How to learn to control the stress
Mind skills: what we will learn – What 6 Dragons Kung Fu teaches about mind development

Questions

Reply in the comments and share your experience:

Have you ever experienced the frustration of being overwhelmed by problems?

Author: Master Kongling

Founder of 6 Dragons Kung Fu.

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